With the election behind us, here is a useful exercise. Reflect on your values – and ultimately your heart – and how you think and act toward others with different political views. Given that (1) most people aspire to high values and (2) there is such a strong political divide in our country, I suspect that many will see a gap between their values and how they think about the candidate they didn’t vote for (and perhaps their supporters as well).
Read MoreWhether with family members or work colleagues, the ability to have a productive discussion when there is disagreement is increasingly challenging, especially when the discussion veers into politics. Courageous conversation is usually a productive way, applying concrete skills to constructively engage with others. This requires practice, but using these skills can significantly up your game.
Read MoreDo you recall situations when your actions failed to live up to your values? For example, do you believe that everyone deserves dignity and respect? This is a simple idea that I suspect most people agree with, at least in principle. As hard as it can feel sometimes, I think it is better to not exclude anyone. You can read my full column titled “Dignity and Respect” in New Hampshire Business Review at https://read.nhbr.com/nh-business-review/2024/09/06/#?article=4253542
Read MoreI found a few treasures last year when cleaning out our house, including a 1964 letter from my Uncle Phil after the death of my father. Rereading this letter, I appreciate his shared wisdom and something even more important. The way he reached out in such a personal, thoughtful way was so valuable. In today’s fast-paced and high-tech times, taking the time to communicate that you care – whether by letter or a thoughtful conversation – seems almost like a lost art.
Read MoreWho do you want to be? Where do you want to go in your life? What gives you meaning? Too often in our busy lives, we skim along life’s surface, without being sure we are investing time and energy in what is most important. To avoid frustration and regret, set aside time for reflection and adjustment. You can read my NH Business Review column on this topic at https://read.nhbr.com/nh-business-review#2024/07/12/?article=4240151.
Read MoreIt is ironic that social media platforms that promised to bring us together are fostering so much division. Facebook can be beneficial for staying connected with family and friends, but news and political posts on these sites often get people agitated and perpetuate the polarization cycle. If it screams it streams, but if kind pay no mind!
Read MoreI was honored to be interviewed by Michael Whidden of American Tributaries, dedicated to promoting fellowship and understanding in America practicing core values of curiosity, respect, compassion and humility. I talked about my upbringing and life and what led me to actively volunteer with Braver Angels and the book I am writing Beyond the Politics of Contempt: Practical Steps You Can Take to Make Our Country Better. Have a look at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7yYqfzfkFs
Read MoreIn 1963, I witnessed my first eclipse — on the coast of Maine — through a shoebox made into a pinhole camera. I was disappointed this year that a family event didn’t happen, but an opportunity arose to see the totality in Pittsburg, NH. I joined old and new friends to witness the stunningly quick onset of darkness and the amazing ring of sun during 3 minutes and 10 seconds of totality.
Read MoreHow are you doing at managing emotions in daily life? It is important to recognize them when they appear and step back to understand where they might be coming from. Another key is awareness of how we impact others when we are experiencing anger, fear, or emotional pain. Stepping back to refocus our energy in ways that might not be apparent at first glance can make a big difference in life and work.
Read MoreIn the 2018 report “Hidden Tribes: A Study of America’s Polarized Landscape,” the authors identify seven segments of Americans (that they call “tribes”) distinguished by differences in beliefs and attitudes. While the two extremes (progressive activists and conservatives) dominate the political conversation, “this environment spawns increasing extremism. . . . Intolerance for the other is a grave threat to our democratic system.”
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